When the Dr. Says, “Can I be honest with you?” You know it’s emotionally hard news you’re about to hear.

October 11, 2017

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When the Dr. Says, “Can I be honest with you?” You know it’s emotionally hard news you’re about to hear.

I don’t know what to do with myself. I’m writing a lot. I’m making videos. I’m playing my guitar a lot. I’m visiting with my family a lot.

I can’t sit still and let my brain start thinking. If I let my mind wonder too much I start crying. Sometimes I start crying anyway even if I’m doing something productive with my mind.

I’m writing this more for me than you. I really love making all kinds of different videos and blogs about health and money that others can use for their own benefit. Half of it all is for my own therapy. Right now I’m writing all for my own therapy.

“sink or swim” is echoing through my brain right now. I hope its swim. I’m not ready for “sink”. No matter when it happens I’ll never be ready for “sink” even if all this ends up being “swim” because eventually swim will turn to sink if not now then down the road. I’ll probably never be ready for “sink” but I began accepting it probably about twenty years ago. Twenty years of accepting it I’m still not ready for when it does finally happen.

Life is something. My appetite is non existent at the moment. I’m living on my super food shakes. I’m holding up pretty good actually. I even have a really good friend visiting from out of town. I’m really looking forward to seeing her. She’s not here for any of this. Just visiting because.

Say what you want about facebook. I’m so glad it exists. It’s a wonderful sounding board for anything you want. It’s a place you can meet people all over the world. For all that is wrong with facebook and for all the drama that people create facebook is worth having because I choose how I use this thing and how I participate in it and with who I am social with.

I totally get it that it’s not for everyone. My biological mom and dad are not even on facebook.

My real mom and dad are on facebook a little bit but not a whole lot.

Then there is me. I am on it every day and there is not much I don’t share no matter how embarrassing and dumb some of my moments are. I like to empathize with other people that I like and I think it would be difficult to connect with other people if I wasn’t transparent about myself in ALL ways.

I crave Human Solidarity. We all crave it. I don’t connect with other people very well. I’ve always had a hard time making friends, especially new ones, and sometimes hanging onto old friends. Facebook has made it easier for me to make friends and find more human solidarity. When I’m up and things are going good I love to talk about it. When things are down and things are not going good I NEED to express it, somehow, and I don’t really know how yet because it’s emotionally hard anyway.

It’s funny about me.. I typically don’t want to talk about it when I’m sad or depressed. I tend to internalize it and work through it on my own. I NEVER want to bring someone down with me. So I don’t. Typing it up in something like this, or making a video, and then publishing it to the internet where anyone in the world can see it actually helps me cope with sadness more than talking to a person about it.

I think that’s kind of weird and I don’t know how I feel about that but since it’s not hurting anything I’m just going to keep going with that.

Sink or Swim. It’s still echoing in my brain. I don’t know what’s going to happen. It could go one way or the other. Sink or Swim really does brilliantly simplify it and sums it all up.

I can’t talk about specifics for privacy respect. Someone I love dearly is fighting for their life.

Sink or Swim.

Human solidarity.

Spend time with everyone you love while they are living. I am. No Regrets about that. When we are alive is when our presence counts. Cannot wait to spend time with a loved one because time will run out for each of us it’s the only guarantee we have.

That’s the way it is.

Even still there is going to be crying and sadness.

I can’t imagine waiting to spend real time with someone I love til after they’ve passed on to the next. omg I can’t wait.

Tom

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Mickie Kuz Love you Tom

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October 11 at 2:57pm

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Tom Birkenmeyer Thanks Mickie Kuz. Love you too my friend.

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Martha Hornby Thank you so much for showing your vulnerability. It’s why I’m here. It’s why we are here. ♡

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Tom Birkenmeyer Always.. life is hard sometimes.

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Tawnya Guthrie Thinking of you Tom and sending hope for your loved one and big (((HUGS))) for you!! 💚💛💜💙 Hang in there!!

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Alex R Artworthy Thinking of you Tom. I hope it turns out “swim”… mad hugs

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Tom Birkenmeyer mad hugs

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Tamsyn Webber My very best to you and your loved one, sending positive thoughts and well wishes for the swim.

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Tom Birkenmeyer Thank you tamsyn. Its my dad.

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Tamsyn Webber *virtual hugs*

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Missy Collins Please give me a call later, I am sending you love and I am here for you my friend. I get out of work at 9. 231 660 3773

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Tom Birkenmeyer Hope its ok if I dont call right now. I’m just not feeling the phone. I appreciate you very much Missy Collins

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Missy Collins Call me when you ready or message men I have you in my heart my friend. 💖

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Valerie Lynn Ward It’s ok to cry. You may just need to go through that cycle. 😘

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Tom Birkenmeyer lots of those cycles happening. Its my dad

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Valerie Lynn Ward 267 453 1689. Call or text amigo.

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Paulette Runkel I spoke with mom last evening. She is not feeling so good with her oncoming cold. I am here for her, for you and pops… always💗. Hugs love prayers ..I know❤️. I just lost my mother a few weeks ago and am glad I spent immeasurable amount of time with and for her. Life is a gift especially those who fight for it. Smooches Tom. You’re the best at what you do and who you have become ♥️ You need to reach out to all of us for emotional support becuz it helps, it does. To hear some words of kindness, support and we are here to listen. So keep using your voice. Let it out. We can all give a virtual hug when we physically can’t. Wrapping my arms around you and your loved ones right now💕

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Tom Birkenmeyer Thank you Paulette

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Chatell Wallace Love you Tom

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Tom Birkenmeyer Thank you Chatell Wallace love you too my friend

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Leslie Lynne Brandon We love and appreciate you Tom 

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Evelyn A. Roper Sending love. Blessed with your friendship.

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Tom Birkenmeyer I appreciate you Evelyn A. Roper very much

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Erika Smith 💜💜💜💜💜💜

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Debra Holloway Samson I’m sorry. Hold on

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October 11 at 3:29pm

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Stephanie Henckel I am so sorry for your pain but what amazing truth and relatable vulnerability you expressed in your post.

A beautiful way to turn your mess into a message 😗

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October 11 at 3:33pm

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Tom Birkenmeyer trying

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Audrey Fox Hang in there, I know ur a great swimmer…dive in! ♡oxo

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Tom Birkenmeyer its my dad

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Jeanne Penner Admire your honesty . ❤️

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Emily Simonson Bouma Hugs to you, my friend. We all swim until we have to sink I guess. I hope all of us are lucky/blessed enough to have a friend like you to hold our hand or pick us up and carry us. God Bless you, and the one you love so much 

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Tom Birkenmeyer Its my dad. Thank you Emily Simonson Bouma I love you my friend

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Emily Simonson Bouma Love you too!

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Emily Simonson Bouma I’m so sorry 

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Lisa Kot Rigsby You inspire so many people. You will always have a place in my heart. So much love & well wishes to you my dear friend. Love you always 💋💋💋

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Tom Birkenmeyer thanks for always been so sweet to me

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Susan Winchester Tx for sharing this. Very nice…

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Tom Birkenmeyer I appreciate you susan

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Tami Bullet Donnelly So sorry about your friends, at first I thought you were talking about yourself.

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Tom Birkenmeyer Its my dad. I wish I could do more to help him.

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Tami Bullet Donnelly I know, i guess all you can do is be there and love him

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Julie Matuszak Goralski Sending hugs!!! We are here for you.

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Kris Gudvangen Love you Tom!

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Tom Birkenmeyer love you my friend

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Paula Anna Maria I will hope and pray for your friend to keep on swimming! Love and light, Tom! And hope! 

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Tom Birkenmeyer Thank you paula. Its my dad.

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Paula Anna Maria Then continuing prayers and positive energy for your dad to keep on swwimming while hope floats all around you and your family! 

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Deborah Araki Love and hugs to you Tom..💕

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Stephanie Pannell ((((( hugs ))))) 🌸☯️💚

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Janna Brunskill Hugs to you, Tom ❤️

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Heather MacDonald Sending hugs, love and solidarity to you and your friend

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Tom Birkenmeyer Thank you heather. Its my dad.

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Heather MacDonald Tom so much love to you both ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Clarissa Winchester Keep on swimming Tom…we love you and are praying for you…. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

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Verena Stirnemann-Funnell My friend in India would probably like help with the children she finds and looks after. Now that would be an adventure and a very worthwhile thing to do. https://www.facebook.com/Hope-to-survive-106134732823809/

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Jennifer Just Love and hugs ❤️ I love your vulnerability, exactly why I connected with you! You are REAL! We all need community, I believe we were created from relationship, for relationships! ⭕️⭕️

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October 11 at 4:12pm

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Tom Birkenmeyer Thank you Jennifer Just. Love you friend.

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Diana Marieta Prayers and Blessings sent your way!! 💜

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Lisa Talley Tom I hear ya!!! I feel odd too like I’m kinda sad and I want to cry too. I cant put my finger on it at all. Dont feel alone. The words sink or swim thats good advice. Add sing, sink or swim. Sing and play your guitar thru it!! Maybe its the approaching holidays and missing those who are no longer here or friends we no longer hang with. Hang in there 🤩

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Tom Birkenmeyer My dad said that about his scenario. Its my dad. I’ll never be ready to lose him. It sucks.

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Sellieve Neptune Thank you for sharing.

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Jaime Walters Sending hugs!!

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Beth Goodman As alone as one can feel, you are not truly alone. That is the beautiful part of Facebook. I’m sorry that you are going through this.

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Vicki Bush Bredemeier You’re such a beautiful person and it makes my heart sad to think of you hurting. Im praying for all to be good!! Sending you positive thoughts and love!

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Terresa Roden Sending love and support energies your way, my friend.

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Robin Rose Sending love and hugs and a gazillion butterfly kisses to the tip of your pretty nose….Hang in there my friend…u r amazing 

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Tina Lynn Hugs tom

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Lucy Jones Sabin ❤️❤️❤️💜

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Mel Wheeler Bairos I’m sorry you are going through such a hard time Tom. It hurts us to see the people we love in a scary uncertain situation. The last two years have been so stressful for our family. Mom had quadruple bypass surgery, then carotid artery surgery, is dealing with high blood pressure, on 5 different blood pressure meds and a blood thinner plus other meds and supplements. She had to have most of her teeth pulled (a med she took wrong destroyed her teeth) and she recently got her dentures and partial. Dad was just diagnosed in April with cancer for a second time (the first time was 9 yrs ago.. bladder and prostate cancer) now stage 4 lung cancer and is having the worst time to quit smoking. Stress will destroy a person if we let it. Dr. Leonard Coldwell said that most people before they are diagnosed with cancer have something very traumatic happened in their life about a year-and-a-half before. Please do things to relieve your stress. I’m praying for your loved one and you. ♡

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Tom Birkenmeyer I’m sorry to hear about your mom and dad mel. This is my dad in this situation. My heart hurts. We don’t know if he is going to live or not.

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Linzy Fox Hey mel. I read your story and I’m wondering if you’ve heard of or know about the benefits fasting can do for the body. It can help your mom to get off her medications all of them.. if u want more info pm.me. this isn’t any money grabbing thing or anything I just want to help and inform people about it since doctors never talk about the benefits of fasting. 

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Mel Wheeler Bairos So sorry Tom. God is amazing and prayers are powerful. Praying he pulls through.  

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Mel Wheeler Bairos Linzy Fox I have read that an all natural diet can reverse artheriosclerosis. That’s pretty amazing. Are you talking about juice fasting? I have talked with my Mom about getting strict with her diet but it’s such a hard thing to change. They are so used to packaged foods and not eating right. They have made some healthy changes. I would actually love to see the info you have though. Maybe I could convince her. Those meds make her feel awful.

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Linzy Fox I’m following this one guy on you tube right now he is very brash and alot of people can’t really handle the way he talks but he keeps people motivated to stick to the fasting until your body is healed.. I’ll send you some links there is alot of great information about fasting plus a tonne of testimonials of people who have beat so many things like diabities,ibs, crons, lupus, and even cancer plus more…
It would honestly take about 3days to kick her off her meds completley. Hope this info helps. 
So this guy has alot of great science and info behind fasting. I’d recommend watching a few of his videos
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Mel Wheeler Bairos Thank you so much Linzy Fox… I really appreciate it!!!

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Linzy Fox No problem!!! Pass on the knowledge!!! 

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Mel Wheeler Bairos Absolutely!!! I always do 

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Joy Phoenix (((HUG))) Let me hold you for a few minutes (((HUG)))
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Tom Birkenmeyer Thank you Joy Phoenix. Im going to absorb this video you made just before sleep tonight.

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Laurie Jacobson Tom- huge hugs to you !

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Karen Colón Hugs 🤗 my friend! My continued prayers.

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Michelle Bower Hugs and prayers Tom. Be well. Keep on swimming.

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Tanya Smith You’re awesome and I hope you hold up ok! 😍

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Stacy Aumann Sending you hugs I found out this morning I have tendonitis in my ankle/foot. But the good news was I found out was I lost 12 pounds. When i’m down in the dumps I in for a walk or I treat myself for lunch or breakfast or I visit friends .

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Anne Marie Lotter-inchiostro Hugs and prayers to you

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Stephanie Sarten I’m really sorry Tom. I wish I had magical words to take the pain away.

The only words I have are I’m sorry for what you’re going through.. if you can float.. just float. the water will carry you… it won’t let you sink.

when it’s time to sink.. you won’t. The water will still carry you and you will rise with the tide.

“Do not swim. Float”
-osho

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Tom Birkenmeyer Thank you Stephanie Sarten. ITs my dad. I like Osho.

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Stephanie Sarten Tom Birkenmeyer I thought it was. Both my parents are cancer survivors so far. But it’s like sitting on a time bomb ya know? This is when you become the parent to your parent. You will find strength you didn’t know you had. That I guarantee. Keep me posted please.

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Ruby Jenkins I wish there was something that me, or anyone else could say or do to help, but as we all know, there isn’t. Just know that you are not alone. You are part of so many people, that love you. When you have people who love and care for you, you can never be alone. I guess pain in one form or another, is part of life. It really sucks that it is, but like I said, know and feel that we are here for you. I pray for peace and comfort for you. If you need me, just holler. Hang in there my sweet friend.

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Julie Ann Walvatne Sending you love and light💖💖💖

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Tom Stolz I love how open you are and the wide variety of things you post. Thank you.

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Jackie Taylor I’m sorry I didn’t know there was anything wrong. Talking always helps. I don’t know what your suffering from but I’ll pray for you and your friend. And to your questioning sink or swim…I say,” just keep swimming, swimming swimming, just keep swimming” it’s a Lil corny I know but it helps me to think as a child for a moment every now and then and sing that to myself, or as my Sister who was also my best friend who died back in 1989. She taught me as Bug Bunny used to say, “Eeeeasy does it, Eeeeasy does it”…even if she used that at the time to teach me how to ease into a hot bath, inch by inch Easy does it, by easy does it, I’ve carried those special moments and sayings and used them in hard situations, they’re endearing to me and it helps. God Bless you and prayers for you and your friend.

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Tom Birkenmeyer Thank you Jackie Taylor. Its my dad.

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Jackie Taylor I’m very sorry to hear that. You didn’t need to tell me but I’m glad you felt you could. I’m here if you need to talk and I know we’ve never met but if your ever feeling really down and people close to you aren’t available your welcome to come hang out with us. We’re good listeners and have helped a few friends get through some very rough times.

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Cindi J Rogers I don’t know how you feel, Tom Birkenmeyer, but I know how I felt during the saddest parts of my life, and I know that I am facing more. What I felt after my mom passed, then 16 months later watching my dad take his last breath then continuing to watch until his heart stopped, then 7 months later, I lost my then mother in law, only to lose my husband of 12 years to suicide 13 months later, and 11 months later my brother in law. Yes, I used Facebook as my out. We all need one. I remember us hanging out quite a bit back in the day, so, my friend, my thoughts and prayers are with you, your family, and whoever is fighting for their life. I know what it was like for me to go through all that alone and my only advice is confide in someone when your ready. Grief is a lonely place – the loneliest place – EVER. God is always listening, Tom, always.

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Tom Birkenmeyer Its my dad. Cindi J Rogers im so sorry about so much loss so fast in your life. Big hugs to you my friend..

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Cindi J Rogers I am so sorry, Tom. I kind of figured it was your dad when I read you were at the doctor with him. Tell your parents I say “Hi, and they are in my prayers”. Anytime you need to talk, don’t hesitate to contact me. I mean it, to yell, scream, vent, or cry – don’t hesitate.

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Virginia Cooper Beautifully written.

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Julie Reschke Sending prayers for both you and your loved one!

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Combretta Allen Your awesome buddy

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Candis Lehnigk This gave me total goose bumps! Hugs! 

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Leighanne Blair I’m SO sorry Tom! I’ve been there twice and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever dealt with in life. Just know I understand and I care. I’m here for you. Sending love & hugs & prayers. ❤️

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Lisa Parker Love ❤️ hugs 🤗 and prayers 🌟

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Jenny Ann ((((Hugs))))

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Shana Wankel Whatever it is that you are having to deal with, i’m just going to offer love, light, luck and support. Hit me up ANYTIME to talk. I mean that. 

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Beverly Gordon Norman Tom, your writing tonight brought tears to my eyes. We all go through the ups and downs of life. I’ve always looked to you as a very positive influence on FB. Your posts are always upbeat and positive information sharing about health, wellness, and how to get there. I look forward to your vids and Information sharing, because I learn from you. I want to tell you how my troubles through life have been changed through my faith in Christ and a deep trust in God. He is my anchor in times of trouble. It’s where I gain my strength and my ability to move forward though life. I’m not sure of your belief in God. I suggest this passage of scripture — John 3:16. Yes, it’s currently a popular song right now. The true meaning is much deeper than a hit-song. It’s about God’s love for us.when one faces the end of life dilemma, then the question of whether or not one believes in God inevitably comes up. I implore you to seek this out if you need solace. I’m sharing this because you are a person I care about as an inspiration and as a friend. I’m so very sorry you are suffering right now through knowing that someone you love may not be long on this earth. God bless you, Friend. I pray for you and this one you love. ❤️🙏🏻

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October 11 at 9:07pm

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Linzy Fox So sorry about your dad tom.  Sending you warms hugs and prayers 

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Angel Saimon Ur doing fine! Please never give up. Youre here for a very special reason and dont ever forget that

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October 11 at 9:13pm

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Khristine Marie Peace, love and light to you Tom.

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October 11 at 9:14pm

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Kathleen Ames Big love to you Tom!!!

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October 11 at 9:24pm

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Tifaine L Lafrance Sometimes the armor we wear is heavy enough to sink us.

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October 11 at 9:25pm

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Tom Birkenmeyer it sure is

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October 11 at 9:26pm

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Iris Figueroa Tom, I hear you so loud and clear. My daughter’s my heartbeat. She suffers greatly, in the hospital for the past 11 days and counting. We both struggle to keep calm and positive, but I see the strain on her most of all.

But I know that there’s always a better answer down the road. The first ones don’t count, they’re raw, not thought out, just offered to fill up space, to distract.

Hang on to hope and faith, hang on to your love, shower that loved one with all of the wonders of you. It’ll lift those you want to empower in this latest journey, it’ll lift you as well. Very powerful medicine, believe me.

You’re not alone, my friend. Love to you and yours always. 

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October 11 at 9:37pmEdited

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Tom Birkenmeyer I hope your daughter is going to be ok iris

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Lisa Oddo Sending hugs and prayers your way Tom.

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October 11 at 9:40pm

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Dreamlin Braun Death, and grieving we all have this emotional path, perhaps more so, than love.

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October 11 at 9:44pm

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Amy Lawrenz I’m sorry Tom. Hugs to you!

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October 11 at 9:49pm

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Lisa Hare Thinking of you, Tom, and sending you love and light. I’ll keep you in my prayers and most positive thoughts.

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October 11 at 9:52pm

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Regi Brinkman Your honesty just makes my heart happy to know You. Sending you a squeeze Tom!

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October 11 at 10:05pm

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Donna Bird Cotter Wow Tom, that was beautiful writing… soul searching… soul sharing… Thank you! Makes perfect sense. Like the face to face intimacy being hard sometimes, yet “social media” being kind of libetating! I concur. A thought: The choice may not always be “sink or swim”. Sometimes floating is OK & necessary! Relax & go with The Flow. Note to self! I love The Serenity Prayer. Peace to you! 

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October 11 at 10:08pm

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Radiance Mimi Miriam Burns For whomever it is you are concerned for, I send my prayers and my love Tom Birkenmeyer

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October 11 at 10:17pm

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Kim Folta You are always such an inspiring person, Tom. Roll with the bad days as best you can, and feel assured you have many friends to turn to. ♡
Ive lost two friends over 4 days this week and it’s hard to process why things happen. I thank God everyday for people I can turn to.
Sending you big hugs and hopefully a hug in person soon. ♡

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October 11 at 10:25pm

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Patti Beres Your honesty is beautiful. You are authentic. That is rare. The world around us manufacturers an ideal that we are entitled to endless happiness, but the truth is that it only sets us up for disappointment, because endless happiness is earthly impossible. Sometimes these revelations bring us to a new respect and understanding of ourselves and the gifts we have to share. I hope you continue to explore expressing your emotions. It is a gift that is relatable and will benefit others if you overcome and share your journey.

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October 11 at 10:44pm

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Lisa Hardwick Tom I am sorry to hear you are going through this. I lost my dad 2 years ago. Still miss him and always will. We will meet again! Life is hard and seems unfair at times but know you have friends who truly care about you. Prayers to your dad and the family. ❤️

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October 11 at 10:50pm

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Cher Harding – Bruin Awe, Thank You For Sharing Pieces Of Your Heart & Your Transparency.
You’re An Extraordinary Person! Hang In There, My Friend.
((Heartfelt Hugs))

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October 11 at 11:09pmEdited

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Michelle Skutnick Tom I’m praying for u and your loved one. I’m so glad u r on Facebook.. Your an inspiration to us all. Hugs to u my dear friend. We love u Tom

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October 11 at 11:40pm

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Kameshwari Kate Holding you and your family in my thoughts and visualizing a soothing light around you and your father.

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October 11 at 11:43pm

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October 12 at 12:13am

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October 12 at 12:25am

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Helen Worthley Inner faith,trust in you,unfailing love….🤗

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October 12 at 12:44am

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Karen Shunk Huge Hugs and so much love and light to you and your loved ones. You are so loved & your posts enjoyed by so many Tom. Xoxo

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October 12 at 12:58am

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Terese Day You’re in my prayers.

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October 12 at 1:01am

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Debbie Golding You’re not alone. Sending love across the pond Tom

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October 12 at 1:15am

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Jakkqui Smolarek I’m sorry, Tom. Strength to you at this time.

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October 12 at 2:13am

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October 12 at 2:57am

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Colleen Marsh Love and Light Tom. Not many people are so forthcoming, keep being real xxx

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October 12 at 3:57am

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Valerie Townsend I’ve had similar frustrations and feelings in the past and I’m sure I will have them again in the future. I had a dream that reminds me of your situation, Tom, with a message that might help you because that dream was meant for sharing.

In the dream I was standing in clear water to my neck. (Clear water represents good intentions). I saw someone on a wharf in the distance. The water was a little rough and I was trying to prevent the waves from coming up over my face and drowning me. I was quite panicky. I tried to get the attention of the person on the wharf to help me, but they didn’t notice me. (This is your journey and no one else can experience your soul’s contract) so I knew I was on my own. I didn’t have the strength to swim as I was exhausted from struggling to keep my head above water. Then suddenly and involuntarily, I just sank backwards down to the bottom of the lake. The bottom was clear and I saw that it was covered in clean colorful small rounded stones. I realized I could breathe under water with ease and no longer did I need to struggle to keep my head above water. Then my body suddenly rose back up out of the water in celebration from the freedom of fear and struggling.

The message here is to let go. Don’t worry or struggle. Just go with the flow. Rest your mind, rest in your heart and in it’s time, it will become abundantly clear how to further your soul’s purpose. Your higher self will take you there. In the meantime take a breather and just be.
Much love, Valerie

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October 12 at 6:55amEdited

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Kelly Taylor Rogers You are such a Light in this world, sweetness…and yes, we must have the darkness in order to appreciate the Light…everything in balance…yin and yang…bless you for being so open and honest…and prayers for strength and comfort for your loved one…keep shining, honey darlin…💛💚💜💙

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October 12 at 7:03am

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Kat James Amen Tom. We all have to sink or swim. I totally agree

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October 12 at 7:22am

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Theresa Cesari-Anderson Tom, lots of prayers and hugs my love!!!!!!!!!!!

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October 12 at 7:35am

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Michelle Long Tom, thank you always for sharing your feelings with us. Thank you for your kindness and love to others. My heart aches for what you are going thru. It’s not an easy path. Your Dad has you to be there for him and what a blessing that is. Amazing heartfelt post. We are all here for you. Sending positive energy to you always.

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October 12 at 7:45am

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Dee Poulson Much love & support for you….float, beautiful, just float…….

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October 12 at 8:08am

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Barbara Baker No matter what you are not in this alone. You ha’ve family right there with you sharing the feelings of not knowing what will happen. wanting to make him all better and not knowing how. So we wait, we hurt a little, we pray a lot, we remember times of of family gatherings past and cry a little for all that is gone before. So see Tom, your not alone.

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October 12 at 8:25am

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Kelly Houston Prayers for your friend and you know my heart goes out to you always
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October 12 at 8:42am

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Juanita Haselwood God is are upper power he takes all are pain away pray to him for healing

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October 12 at 8:57am

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Alicia Chestnut King Life is eternal we are

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October 12 at 9:30am

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Carmen Nickerson Prayers for your pain to heal

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October 12 at 9:51am

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Michele Lynn You are awesome.

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October 12 at 10:45am

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Tina Michelle Praying for you and your family and God bless you for having the strength and courage and the vulnerability I’m always here if you ever need a friend you can message me anytime hugs my friend

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October 12 at 12:32pm

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Cissy Norwood Love you baby. Need to see some boobs? Lol

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October 12 at 4:53pm

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October 12 at 5:27pmEdited

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Pam Perry Picciotta I TOTALLY get it Tom! I swim every day because I REFUSE to sink!!

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October 13 at 1:29am

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Sherria Mechelle Wine (((HUGS))) 

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October 13 at 5:08am

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Jamie Conley I deal with things pretty much identical to what you described, so I get it (I’m sure more than few do.)
Thanks for sharing even if it is for your own therapy.
Sending out hugs, good vibes and hope you and who is having this crisis gets through it with ease and peace.

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Chris Cougan Schram LOVE YOU!!!! 

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Carolyn Sirianni Thinking of you my friend. It’s just another realm, but it sure hurts like hell, because it’s very hard for us as human beings, and we are really spiritual beings, trying to stay human on this earth of many lessons. I think that’s why we are her. I’m with you Tom.

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Janine Rec I’m saddened to see you in so much pain Tom. All my love 

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Chrissy Lynn Castro You are one of the kindest people I have met on Facebook! I hope your okay, I don’t really know what your dealing with but I’m so sorry that you are dealing with it! I know some people don’t believe in things others do and that’s okay because a real Christian doesn’t judge, they just love ❤️! I’m saying prayers for you, prayers for healing, hope, peace, strength and most of all Love! You deserve so much love! God bless you friend and I hope you know life is just the beginning and death starts your real journey, don’t fear it because your life in death will be blessed! Lots of love ❤️Tom!

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