Let me drop some hard-earned wisdom that’s been keeping my peace intact for years. If you have your own relatable story, please share it with us in the comments.
THE DATING SCENE
It’s like watching fuckery jujitsu in action. People out here with their red pill pickup artist nonsense, acting like little kids with their hands in the cookie jar. They throw empty words around thinking they’re players, but here’s the truth: If you’re treating relationships like a video game level to beat, then off to chase another girl or boy shaped toy, you’re part of the problem, not the solution.
TRUTH BOMB
I can go to bed happy, after a day of living my passions, totally content. You know what actually use to make me lonely? Those BS 3am love bombs from someone who doesn’t really want me. That “come here, I don’t want you” cognitive dissonance hits like getting punched in the face twice before breakfast in the safe space of your own damn home.
BOUNDARIES CHECK EDITION ✓
• Your lazy one-word texts? (Probably sent to 200 others) BLOCKED
• Your mass-sent “hey” messages? DELETED
• Your attempts to make me jealous? LAUGHABLE
• Your game-playing Love Bombing “Come Here, I don’t want you” nonsense? IRRELEVANT and I still wish ill upon you.
MAJOR PSA: My boundaries are excellent these days. I can have wonderful friendships with all kinds of people, including married folks and their partners. But try to include me in breaking faith with your partnership? That information’s going straight to the newspaper where it belongs.
REAL LIFE UPDATE: Just danced my ass off last night, did a great workout today, in the midst of writing a new beautiful song for my Musical Orgasms brand that you should totally look up on Spotify (or whatever platform you use), and the most recent “Come here, I don’t want you” cognitive dissonance bullshit I received had no effect on me (Growth, right? Drop a if you relate!)
LIVING ALONE VS. LIVING LONELY:
Sure, I love giving and receiving massages and I typically eat dinner alone. But let me tell you something – every single aspect of living alone beats trying to live with someone who makes you feel alone. Lived life experiences has taught me that many years ago.
THE BIGGEST WASTE OF TIME?
Allowing the wrong people to live rent free in my mind. I left those situations, sometimes emotional traumatized, and lots of healing to do. But guess what? Now I’m:
• Making decisions without bruising egos
• Working faster without waiting for “help”
• Living authentically without arbitrary criticism
ENERGY CHECK ⚡
Mine’s focused. Controlled. Purposeful. When I give attention, it starts with eye contact and a genuine smile. No games, no manipulation. If you can’t match that energy, don’t expect access to my life.
HARD TRUTH ABOUT HELP:
I love the idea of people helping people. When help is offered to later use as a bargaining tool to guilt trip you into future returned favors then I’d rather do it myself. If help is offered with no expectation to manipulate later, I’ll take it and odds are I will offer help when said individual needs help. Fortunately, I am extraordinarily healthy, strong, capable, and not afraid of rolling up my sleeves to work hard. Hard work is inevitable. Sure, it’d be nice to have someone cozy to collapse with after a day of honest hard work, but when you’re on Planet Mars like I am, a healthy protein shake or a fresh pressed green vegetable juice works just fine.
THE LUGGAGE TEST:
If they’re:
• Inconsistent ❌
• Insincere ❌
• Unmotivated ❌
• Selfish ❌
They’re not baggage – they’re behavior is worthy of garbage. And when you finally let them go, you won’t sink – you’ll float.
THE GOLDEN RULE:
You need people. You don’t need A person. When you stop needing someone and just want them instead? That’s where real relationships begin.
FINAL TRUTH:
Be under your own power. Every chore after that is just a swim. Stop towing people along who don’t want to be there. People aren’t luggage, and you’re not a courier service.
Share Your Story:
• What was your “enough is enough” moment?
• How did you find peace in solitude?
• What’s your best “I did it myself” victory?
Drop a if you’re done with half-present people and ready to be fully alive alone or in a healthy relationship.
#RealTalk #Boundaries #SelfWorth #NoMoreGames #AuthenticLiving #SingleLife #GrowthJourney
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