When we lose a lover..
whether through a breakup or death, our brains experience a similar kind of grief. The emotions involved may differ, but the process of mourning and healing we go through is quite alike. I believe our brains don’t differentiate between the pain of a breakup and the pain of a loss through death. Both types of losses are a separation from someone we deeply loved and to whom we felt connected.
The grieving process can be intense. We may go through stages like denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and eventually acceptance, much like those experienced when someone dies. Even if a relationship ended by mutual choice, the sense of loss can still be profound. We grieve not just the person, but also the future we had envisioned with them.
But there is always hope for healing no matter how painful. Acknowledge these feelings and give yourself permission for time to grieve. Reach out to supportive friends, family, or a therapist for help processing these emotions. Engage in self-care like healthy eating, regular exercise, treating yourself to stuff you don’t normally treat yourself to, and sufficient sleep. Consider a hobby, passion, or new activity to take your mind off what pains you and bring in fresh experiences. And practice patience and kindness with yourself throughout the journey. With time, we can navigate the grief and move forward.